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Monday, July 26, 2010

Gun-Shy

Two weeks ago I did something I've never done before -- I took down (unposted?) a post here at Lemonade & Kidneys. It was from three months ago, and it was discussing impressions and reactions to my first few weeks at my new job. And while it wasn't incendiary or really even mean-spirited, it was perhaps a little blunt.

And someone from work found my blog.

And I got outed to my boss, which sucked just about as much as you might think it would.

I truly couldn't imagine what I'd posted to cause a negative reaction, as I think I'm very conservative (usually) about anything that might cause offense, but upon re-reading, I could certainly understand how people's feelings were hurt, and I was MORTIFIED -- on several levels, not the least of which being that I was always the kid getting her feelings hurt over trivialities, and I felt awful that something I wrote had had that impact on anyone.

But I was also mortified that someone had come away with an impression that really didn't match my true feelings. I loathe being misunderstood or misinterpreted, and that button got pushed pretty hard. And I've only myself to blame, for being a little flippant in choosing my words.

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There were no real reprecussions at work. After my initial orgy of self-recrimination, I calmly and sincerely apologized to the people I needed to apologize to, and my boss recognizes that no harm was intended. Still, I now find myself hesitant to post about anything. Kids? Health? Family? All now seem to be potential minefields. I want to just get over it, but I'm stuck.

(And thanking my stars that I've never posted about my sex life, or anything TRULY mortifying.)

5 comments:

Blessed Rain said...

We live in an age where everyone talks about how open, fun and witty people are and then as soon as you step out to be you get kicked for it. The real witty and fun people get bashed, beaten and clobbered for their frank voices.
I am lucky that i am a stay at home mama who can only offend my family - and they all know me.

Add a disclaimer to the bottom of your witty blogs saying the story is not about hurting someone as much as it is venting or expressing emotions of the moment.

thedomesticgoddess said...

Funny, posting about your sex life would probably be more acceptable.

Another reason I don't post under my real name.

RuthWells said...

I kind of like the idea of disclaimers, BR!

Kelly @ Student of the Year said...

I understand completely. Before even applying to nursing school, I anticipate having to really either re-organize or delete my blogs.

A teacher was recently fired from Notre Dame de Namur (I don't know if I'm spelling that correctly) for very bland comments on her blog about an assignment. Students were aware of her blog, but that knowledge then fell into the wrong (i.e. very conservative) hands. The fallout was swift and brutal. It goes to show just how much social media is starting to impact people outside the computer screen.

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